Feedback on 3-9-10 Issue of Glenn Shepard’s “Work Is Not for Sissies!”
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Very well said! People often leave out, or miss, the ” the love of” part!
I have taught 6th grade religion class for 12 years. We always talk about how the LOVE of money is the root of all evil and not money itself.
Glenn, I had a old farmer gentleman named Charlie Brown for a Sunday School teacher years ago, and he like to say the lack of money was the root of all evil.
Great column! I heard Dave Ramsey say that money magnifies character. If you give a jerk alot of money he simply becomes a bigger jerk! I really enjoy “Work is not for Sissies!”
This could not have come at a better time in my day. This is a refreshing article because today is one of those days that I wish I was just hauling garbage on a garbage truck and didn’t have to answer to anyone but the people who I pick garbage up from. But this pasage let’s me know that I am here for a reason and that is to change the lives of my employees. This is their quality of life and I am here to help them make the most of their 40 hours.
“your brother falls head over heals with the ugliest woman you’ve ever seen, and says, “Isn’t she hot?” You might respond, “She’s really something else”.” Is it impossible to fall in love with someone who is not attractive on the outside and beautiful on the inside? Why not use a shirt, a tree, a house or something that doesn’t have feelings or can’t be hurt by little “white lies.” You have lost a great deal of my respect with your examples. Now I question why you always refer to “my beautiful wife” are you convincling yourself or trying to convince your readers. Should we return with the statement “she’s really something.”
Five years ago your pedistal wasn’t so high and you had your own useful ideas. Today you toss names, monetary amounts and material things around like they can solve all workday problems. Go back to giving real information instead of being a lead-in to a program you are about to present or a book you’re trying to sell. Get out of your plane and back to earth.
Hi Glenn. Great article. I really appreciate your simple, yet profound wisdom. I also appreciate the “in your face” writing style. You are a stand up guy.
I do want to comment on the previous statement by Carol. Carol, I am not sure what you were referring to in your comment to Glenn. But it sounds as though you are insulting him and perhaps even his wife. As an abstract reader of this column, I was confused by your comments. The impression you left on me with your comments has prompted me to write the following – to you.
I have learned over the years that when a person is unhappy and bitter with their situation, it is much easier to point fingers at others, than to deal with the person in the mirror. My suggestion to you, Carol, is – take a look in the mirror and re-direct your comments to that person, rather than to others. The long term impact of dealing with the one in the mirror is much more gratifying and attractive than projecting unhappiness and bitterness on to others.
I wish you the best.
Darren Johnson
http://www.DarrenLJohnson.com
Carol,
What are your comments based on? And what would prompt you to bring Glenn’s wife into the equation?
Glenn has a very strong reputation with those who know him of being both very successful and very down to earth. His work ethic, discipline and character got him to where he is today. He understate’s what he has achieved; he certainly doesn’t exaggerate it.
He has given generously of his time, experience and business wisdom to those who could not afford his fees at the time.
Alan Allard
http://www.AlanAllard.com
Ahh Carol?
What on earth do you hope to gain by insulting one of America’s top business experts? From my experience, Glenn is one incredible heck of a guy with more integrity than just about anyone I know.
The fact is he loves his “Beautiful Wife” because I know she’s beautiful as they come inside and out. He deserves the best and he deserves the right to praise her anyway he feels. (
I always believe that its best to let people think your an idiot than to use your keyboard and prove it. Your fingers give you away.
Dan Lenard
http://www.DanLenard.com
Loved the article, Glenn.
I felt for the gentleman in your column who’s in a really tough ethical situation. Grappling with truth, especially as it relates to your integrity, can present a frustrating moral dilemma … if we’re being honest, we’ve all found ourselves in situations where representing our “brutal truth” would have caused pain and frustration for the person with whom we’re interacting. If we care about ethics and morality, we typically also value compassion and empathy. Most of us desire to find a balance where we can be vessels of both compassion AND truth as we interact with the world as neighbors, co-workers, lovers, friends. Tough gig.
I’m sure if you asked your readers what they thought of your wife, most of them would tell you that she’s beautiful and highlight the things they love about her. Some might point out a flaw. The REAL truth, though, is you haven’t asked anyone else what they think about your wife, so I’m a little confused about the point Carol is trying to make.
I, for one, think your wife is hot.
Since you didn’t ask. And I am really grateful for the sincere, heartfelt way that you invest yourself in others and in the Church. It’s interesting that Carol feels disappointed in you based on a hypothetical scenario in a newsletter … to be taken seriously, it seems opinions about a person’s character (and spreading those opinions, especially) should be based on the fruit of the person’s life that one is judging: the way they treat their brother, they way they give of themselves to others, their compassion and integrity. Assumptions about their character based solely on a newsletter surely reveal the judge as inept and superficial, at best. Comical and ridiculous, even offensive and slanderous, at worst.
You, my friend, exemplify the very best in the entrepreneurial spirit not only as a businessman, but as a neighbor and friend. You are a force for good in the world, and I’m really honored to know you!
Misty Williams
http://www.MyStrategicMarketer.com
I find that the more generous you are with the financial resources that God blesses you with, the more financially blessed you become. The more you give and help others, the more you become blessed as a result. It is no wonder the Bible says that it is more blessed to give than to receive. It is very true. I feel better when I give than when I receive.
Glenn,
First of all, terrific post – and something that needs to be said, repeated, and absorbed. Especially in our profession of speakers, consultants, and authors there is such a great deal of pretending going on around money, success, and accomplishment, our peers might be more screwed up around money issues than even our friends, clients, and readers.
Having said that – what the heck is going on with Carol ?
My only guess is that your dead-on “elephant in the room” analysis of what keeps folks broke and financially irresponsible may have hit a raw nerve (as it should) and Carol is lashing out in a completely inappropriate, unprofessional, and unacceptable way.
Coming full circle to why Glenn Shepard is a consummate leadership and management expert – Question for the group: What would YOU do if Carol were one of your employees and this totally unacceptable behavior happened on the job or with a co-worker or customer?
Interesting dilemma, yes?
David Newman
http://www.DavidNewman.com
It is my experience as a professional counselor of more than 20 years, that people do tend to act out when their anxiety is high. What this article presents is the idea that when we don’t have enough money, we are more likely to act in “evil” ways. I couldn’t agree more (that doesn’t mean people with money don’t act out, it just means its people without or who fear being without that are more likely to behave badly). I suspect, Carol (from the above comment) is having some kind of anxiety issues of her own, or she wouldn’t be making a personal attack. My guess is she has insecurities about her own looks and chooses to take that out on you, Glenn, and of course, your wife!
But in any case, her argument makes no sense of any kind.
Melody Brooke
http://www.AwakenedHeartProductions.com
Hi Glenn,
First — accept my complete support for you and your beautiful wife, the both of you having come under this unprovoked and brutal assault.
Most obvious here is that Carol has made no logical connection between your newsletter and her response. It is a complete non sequitur. Her lack of connection suggests that she is using you as a projection screen.
Her comment is coming from a wounded spot in her being and must be viewed that way. She is clearly hurting and lashing out.
Be well, you two.
Dr. James Sniechowski
http://www.BridgingHeartAndMarketing3.com
Amen to the previous comments – this is a great post.
I also have to agree with Melody regarding Carol’s comment, “It makes no sense of any kind”. I can’t begin to understand what is being said and how it applies here. Sorry if I’m just not getting it Carol, but Glenn, you sure make good sense! Thank you for that!
Amy Henderson
http://www.HendersonTraining.com
Great article Glenn. And great distinction regarding “The root of all evil.”
Not quite sure what Carol was referring to in her post. We all occasionally say things we later regret, and perhaps this was just one of those times.
Your wife is beautiful and you’re a great coach. Keep the great work coming.
Dr. Michael Norwood
http://www.WealthySoul.com
Glenn. Enjoyed the article as usual. Thinking money is the root of all evil is what keeps many people broke. I tend to agree with Jim’s comment about lack of money being the root of all evil.
In response to Carol’s comment in a previous post – - – Carol, lighten up. Glenn simply gave a hypothetical example to make a point. He posted nothing personal about anyone so I don’t understand you personally attacking him. I’m guessing you don’t know him or his beautiful wife. I hope whatever issue you have that is causing you to lash out at someone you don’t even know is resolved soon.
I didn’t know Glenn five years ago. But I do consider him a friend now and one of the most giving people (of both time and money) that I have ever known. He always goes above and beyond in helping people achieve more in their lives. I know what drives Glenn to continue working and to continue helping people and it is NOT money.
Mike Coleman
http://www.mikecoleman.net
You’ve arrived at the next level in your career where success breeds negative emotions in people you don’t even know. People like Carol are angry and unhappy and somehow confuse your happiness and success with the causes for their own failures.
Francine DiFilippo
Sarasota, FL
Great piece, Glenn! Money, as with so much in life, is inherently neutral – we can use it for better causes or for worse and it’s up to our character, both as individuals and as a society, to be sure to use it for the better.
Carol – as for your post, I actually think it’s great that you question Glenn’s motives! Why? Because if there’s even a chance that his sincerity or motivation can be questioned – and your remarks suggest you feel that’s the case – then that’s a challenge both to Glenn’s reputation and business, two things I know that he passionately defends. Peception is everything in the market and if you think that there may be negative perceptions of him out there, whether rightly or wrongly, it’s a great service to let him know. That said, though…
If you are personally concerned that Glenn might have gotten ‘off message’ or have some kind of covert agenda, it seems to me that it ought to be addressed both ‘on message’ and without the appearance of a covert agenda of your own. Have feedback for him? Great – bring it on. I’ve never known Glenn to be shy about taking credible feedback seriously and making changes if he sees a point where he can improve. He doesn’t just ‘not mind’ credible feedback – he thrives on it! But questioning his feelings about his wife? Even if intended to be rhetorical, your comments can be nothing but hurtful at best. Again, perception is everything. If you want your feedback to be perceived as credible and taken seriously, here or anywhere else, rumor or innuendo on your part will only guarantee that your comments will be ignored or ridiculed. That will be a shame if you feel that you have some important to say.
Chris Bauer, PhD
http://www.bauerethicsseminars.com
I just returned a few minutes ago from presenting tonight on my latest book, “Journeying on Holy Ground” and spoke precisely to the topic of your newsletter about money. I agree 100% with your position and points shared. Money is good so long as we don’t let it be our God. It is the”Love” of money that is evil. On it’s own merits, money is a vehicle that can and does do great things for millions.
As I read through the comments, Carol appears to have gone on a tangent not even remotely suggested in your newsletter. And, on top of that, she levied a personal insult to you and your wife.
I won’t pretent to analyze her motives. However, it does appear that she doesn’t understand another biblical fact—-you reap what you sow.
Billy Arcement
http://www.SearchingForSuccess.com
Glenn –
First, great newsletter piece. Not sure what motivated it, but I’m all for empowering people to maximize their earning potential. I’d also like to see more people support good causes, like the people you mentioned, so double props to you. (BTW, I also know that YOU’RE one of those people and you didn’t mention that – - so I will!!)
As far as your advice to “Todd” – and the subsequent inapproprite remarks by Ms. Underwood, I like everything you said to Todd with one possible exception. While your example about his fictitious brother’s girlfriend was stated to make a point, I can see where that kind of reference might be offensive to some (actually, the example didn’t offend me, but I thought your “honest” example might have been a little inappropriate. Your point would have been made with something less harsh – ?) Carol would have been fine to object to your example, state her reasons, and stop there. But going further was wrong – in fact, it was exactly what she was complaining about!! I don’t know if she was being so calloused or cruel as to try to offend you or your wife. If so, shame on her for her intentions and her hypocracy. If she was simply trying to make a point, bad judgment. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
My two cents. I wonder if Ms. Underwood will see these or even care? But for those of us who do, always good to learn something.
Take care,
Steve VH
As a licensed clinical psychologist for over 30 years, I want to praise the psychologically wise counsel you procide in your newsletter. Most business coaches can’t touch that level of guidance that makes your work so exceptional. Apparently Carol read something into your most recent message that threatened her and prompted her lashing out. Please ignore it.
Judith Sherven, PhD
http://www.TheHeartOfMarketing.com
As to David’s proposed scenario, I would have pulled Carol in (and Glenn, too, if he worked there) and faciliated a discussion around 1.) what the real problem was and 2.) the inappropriateness of launching personal attacks in public in the workplace.
I’m pretty sure Glenn deals with how to resolve “bad apple” situations amongst employees in his talks. I don’t care how strong a performer anyone is, if they are poisoning the place, they gotta go!!
Steve Von Hoene
http://www.journey-learning.com
The subject of your newsletter was dead on. Zig Ziglar points out that without money, Billy Graham couldn’t have reached all of the people he did without having the money to do it.
The diatribe you see on most television shows nowadays about how money is “cold, hard” cash or ‘hard earned’ just feeds into the perception that its hard to get and hard to keep.
People need to have a healthier relationship with their finances and remember just how a $20 bill FEELS in their hands. If more folks talked about money being a GOOD thing, maybe we wouldn’t have wound up in the credit crisis we’ve had over the past couple of years.
Now for Carol’s comment…Having known you both (you, Glenn…and your truly beautiful wife) I will be the first to say that Carol’s attack was unprovoked and incorrect.
It amazes me the “power” that people perceive the internet to give them. They’ll say or do things online that they would never say to your face.
To quote William Shakespeare – “The lady doth protest too much.” (Read: you hit way too close to home.)
Rachel D. Young
http://www.WhatIfYouWereThin.com
Glenn thank you for this advice. In the field of mental health, we must be reminded of this. Not valuing my own services (and therefor not assertively collecting the money that is owed me) remains a major challenge/ is killin’ me. I enjoy your newsletter!
Carla F. Garber, Ph.D
Ft. Worth, TX
Love the article. I agree that the LACK of money is the root of all evil. My goal is to be able to give away as much or more money than Glenn does. I better get busy!
Regarding Miss Carol. Bless her heart. I suppose a person COULD use a thing as an object in an analogy. But Glenn chose an imaginary woman. The imaginary woman IS “something that DOESN’T have feelings or can’t be hurt by little “white lies.”
It sounds to me like Carol personalized/internalized Glenn’s reference to the imaginary woman. Is she incapable of separating herself from imaginary characters? Now I have to wonder if she may SEE or HEAR imaginary characters in her head! If so, psychiatry or really good cognitive therapy may be in order. Bless her heart.
David Humes
http://www.DavidSpeaks.com
Thanks, Glenn, for a great message. I know from experience that it can be difficult to write blog posts and newsletters, because you don’t have a “live” audience to give you feedback and much-needed applause. That’s why I just wanted to let you know I appreciate your words of wisdom — and based on the other comments here, obviously I’m not alone. (With the exception of Carol, but I can’t quite follow her comment anyway. Constructive criticism is one thing, but personal insults are just uncalled for. Don’t let her get you down. The rest of us need you – and appreciate you!) Keep up the good work, and here’s to your continued success!
Shawn Ellis
http://www.SucceedSpeaking.com
I totally disagree with the assessment of Glen’s examples and reference to his wife. I can’t imagine any man not thinking his wife is beautiful and lovely in every respect which is the essence of romance.
Glenn gives a lot to others and that should be the take away pint from his writings. Glenn is successful and will continue to be so because he gives to tothers both he and his beautiful wife.
relationships.
Keep doing what you are doing Glenn. Those of us that truly know you appreciate your efforts and enjoy reading your newsletters and your examples and references. They motivate us all to achieve more and look upon our wives as lovely and beautiful partners in our
Carl L. Young
http://www.CYoungConsulting.com
Glenn,
Great publication, as always you are on top of what is going on by being willing to discuss some of the daily activities that cause us problems.
Ms. Underwood: I agree with the Van Hoene response to your outburst. Glenn often does use “edgy” examples; That is what makes his ‘advice’ so good. If his readers can’t see past the example to the bigger picture then the effort is lost. But you being wrong does not solve your problem.
Some people have a critical spirit and spend most of their lives laying in wait for someone to say or do something that ‘offends’ them. Then, they lash-out not realizing that the lashing out is generally an example of what offended them.
My suggestion for you would be to get in a dialogue with any of the folks who have already responded to your lashing-out and discuss the appropriateness of your position.
If that kind of confrontation is not possible for you, then stop reading Glenn’s work. Your critical spirit will continue to fester and just make you offended at some of his future postings.
Dr. Ralph E. Hillman
http://www.TheBreatheSystem.com
Hey Glen!
Carols comment really got people going! Well I guess you can’t ‘win em all’?
Glenn,
As usual, a great newsletter and a message that hits the nail on the head. It is amazing how many people blame inanimate objects for the problems in their life. Money, in and of itsself, is neither good nor bad. The only effect it has hangs precariously on the choices made by the people who are holding onto it at any point in time.
As for you, Carol, I feel very sorry for you. Your marginally intellible rant obviously comes from some deep pain in your own life and missplaced blame. I don’t know who hurt you or how, but I would encourage you to work through it (with a professional if need be) and get it behind you. I don’t know who you are or what your financial situaion is, but I would guess you are not living in abundance. The law of attraction will never bring an abundance of anything that you dispise and life is too short to be angry over such things.
I have known Glenn for a number of years and I can assure you his heart is in the right place and his integrity is in tact. Judging from your comments, I am not sure I can assume the same for you.
Get well soon.
Craig Kitch
http://www.CraigKitch.com